I will speak of this only once, as it is my Achilles heal.
My doctor has informed me that one of the medications I am taking for my epilepsy is damaging my liver and eating away the marrow in my bones; that taken over any protracted period of time, this is what it does to the human body. Many years ago, when it registered with me as nothing more than another meaningless pronouncement of doom from yet another doctor, I was advised that I would eventually lose all of my teeth, which at the time sounded absurd to me as my teeth were in perfect shape, but I lost them, just as I was told would be the case. This because of the other med that I am taking. Then there is the unavoidable mental confusion referred to in the teeny-tiny print of the three-page disclaimer that comes with it. I'm having a hard time deciding who has benefited the most in all this.
The seizures themselves are roughly akin to shock treatment, a short-circuit in the wiring of the brain that may or may not leave you with some awareness of your situation, but never any control over it; they are not always the same and not always of the same intensity, some are mildly uncomfortable, others strong and sometimes violent; all of them are demoralizing. And taking the meds regularly is no guarantee against seizure activity, as they often seem sensitive to an inner stress or turmoil that I cannot reach.
I have about 10 to 15 seconds warning. My perception takes on a surreal-like quality and becomes imprecise; everything is vaguely off somehow, out of balance, not right. I feel an almost silent humming. I become increasingly anxious because I am about to lose total control and there is nothing I can do about it. I am powerless and feel angry. Then its like touching the exposed ends of live wires to each side of my head. If the current is mild, the involuntary movements are hardly noticeable; if stronger, they become convulsive. There is no pain. I feel drained afterwards.
It is tiring to an individual. And it’s not just the mental and emotional toll that it takes on my dwindling resources; it’s having to constantly expend the energy to hide something that is so much a part of me, and yet so much not a part of others, something that is ugly to watch and humiliating to experience, even when alone. To be open about it is to be singled out, separated from the crowd, treated differently than everyone else. And I hate it. Those closest to me prefer to think that it does not exist, that I am like them and not different. But maybe that’s not fair to them. Maybe I simply see in them what I don't want to see in myself. I hate it more than I can say.
In my case, it is not a genetic condition. No one on either side of my family has ever had epilepsy. None of my children have it. When it was discovered in me, I had taken no hard blows to the head or anything else that is known to sometimes bring about convulsions and cause epilepsy; all of which leaves me little to explain it. For some time now, I’ve thought of my epilepsy as the result of an early conspiracy of mind and body, one having unforeseen and irreversible consequences; confronting a threat to survival and circumstances that had become no longer tenable, a solution to the problem was formed. I can think of no other explanation, nor can I prove this one.
Some might say this theory is born more out of self-centeredness than any reality, and I would give them that, blaming myself for things beyond my control. But I would also note that I certainly wasn’t lacking for attention anymore. In school, I had to sit with the teacher at recess instead of playing with my classmates. I was excused from class early to take a nap everyday. I could get away with things that the others couldn’t. Unfortunately, I did too good of a job on myself, and what I may have then needed as temporary relief, now is a lifetime disability.
End of rant.
My doctor has informed me that one of the medications I am taking for my epilepsy is damaging my liver and eating away the marrow in my bones; that taken over any protracted period of time, this is what it does to the human body. Many years ago, when it registered with me as nothing more than another meaningless pronouncement of doom from yet another doctor, I was advised that I would eventually lose all of my teeth, which at the time sounded absurd to me as my teeth were in perfect shape, but I lost them, just as I was told would be the case. This because of the other med that I am taking. Then there is the unavoidable mental confusion referred to in the teeny-tiny print of the three-page disclaimer that comes with it. I'm having a hard time deciding who has benefited the most in all this.
The seizures themselves are roughly akin to shock treatment, a short-circuit in the wiring of the brain that may or may not leave you with some awareness of your situation, but never any control over it; they are not always the same and not always of the same intensity, some are mildly uncomfortable, others strong and sometimes violent; all of them are demoralizing. And taking the meds regularly is no guarantee against seizure activity, as they often seem sensitive to an inner stress or turmoil that I cannot reach.
I have about 10 to 15 seconds warning. My perception takes on a surreal-like quality and becomes imprecise; everything is vaguely off somehow, out of balance, not right. I feel an almost silent humming. I become increasingly anxious because I am about to lose total control and there is nothing I can do about it. I am powerless and feel angry. Then its like touching the exposed ends of live wires to each side of my head. If the current is mild, the involuntary movements are hardly noticeable; if stronger, they become convulsive. There is no pain. I feel drained afterwards.
It is tiring to an individual. And it’s not just the mental and emotional toll that it takes on my dwindling resources; it’s having to constantly expend the energy to hide something that is so much a part of me, and yet so much not a part of others, something that is ugly to watch and humiliating to experience, even when alone. To be open about it is to be singled out, separated from the crowd, treated differently than everyone else. And I hate it. Those closest to me prefer to think that it does not exist, that I am like them and not different. But maybe that’s not fair to them. Maybe I simply see in them what I don't want to see in myself. I hate it more than I can say.
In my case, it is not a genetic condition. No one on either side of my family has ever had epilepsy. None of my children have it. When it was discovered in me, I had taken no hard blows to the head or anything else that is known to sometimes bring about convulsions and cause epilepsy; all of which leaves me little to explain it. For some time now, I’ve thought of my epilepsy as the result of an early conspiracy of mind and body, one having unforeseen and irreversible consequences; confronting a threat to survival and circumstances that had become no longer tenable, a solution to the problem was formed. I can think of no other explanation, nor can I prove this one.
Some might say this theory is born more out of self-centeredness than any reality, and I would give them that, blaming myself for things beyond my control. But I would also note that I certainly wasn’t lacking for attention anymore. In school, I had to sit with the teacher at recess instead of playing with my classmates. I was excused from class early to take a nap everyday. I could get away with things that the others couldn’t. Unfortunately, I did too good of a job on myself, and what I may have then needed as temporary relief, now is a lifetime disability.
End of rant.